Kieran Foran breaks his silence about stepson's tragic death with a heartbreaking message - as victim's TV star uncle Dr Justin Coulson says the family will be 'wrestling for the reason why' for the rest of their lives

Shattered NRL star Kieran Foran has posted a heartfelt message to his stepson after the 20-year-old surfer took his own life in a devastating family tragedy last week.

The body of Logan Steinwede was discovered by his grandparents last Monday morning, just a few weeks after he celebrated his 20th birthday on October 1.

Logan's uncle - parenting expert and TV host Dr Justin Coulson - said his death had come 'completely out of the blue', as loved ones desperately searched for answers. 

Now Gold Coast Titans star Foran - married to Logan's heartbroken mother, Karina - has posted his own touching tribute.

On a clip of spectacular footage of Logan riding waves on a surf expedition and who dreamed of becoming a pro surfer, Foran added: 'You in your happy place.

'I love you Logz. I'll miss u everyday for the rest of my life.'

He signed off the post with three black hearts, triggering an outpouring of grief and supportive messages from his followers.

'Logan lives in your heart now Kieran and he will stay there forever,' posted one. 'Draw strength from him, talk to him and keep your heart strong for him there.'

Logan's family said they will be 'wrestling with the reason why' for the rest of their lives. 

‘This is a question that our family is going to wrestle with for the rest of our lives,’ Dr Coulson told Daily Mail Australia.

'He's (Logan) just fun and funny,' Dr Coulson said, his voice wavering with emotion, and still referring to his nephew in the present tense. 

'He's just that kid who has been a joy, such a joy and there's nothing that would have made us think that this was coming.'

But the family, which includes Logan's motivational speaker-father, Mat - who published his own heartbreaking video - have bravely shared their pain in a bid to help others who might find themselves in a similar position.

‘When somebody dies by suicide the natural response is to look for answers and to search yourself and even to blame yourself,' explained Dr Coulson, who hosts Channel Nine's Parental Guidance program.

'Generally, this is not going to be a healthy response. It only leads to more heartbreak.'

Dr Coulson said that suicide is always a complex, 'multifactorial' decision but could be broken down into two core issues: being unable to ask for help and not having the tools at hand to combat life's many trials and tribulations. 

'If Logan had walked upstairs to my grandparents and said, “I'm struggling to cope with something” rather than walking downstairs to his death, we wouldn’t be having this conversation,' Dr Coulson said.

'The bravest thing that somebody can say to another person is: "I'm struggling".'

Dr Coulson, who is Logan's mother's brother, likened the constant struggle of dealing with whatever life may throw at you to carrying a bucket of water. 

‘Let's say we all have a capacity-to-live threshold and let's treat it like a bucket. If something bad happens, it's like putting a great big rock in that bucket,' Dr Coulson said.

'And then something else happens that's horrible or difficult or chronic, that's another rock and then something else happens until you are eventually burdened by enough rocks in your bucket that the water overflows. You then say: "I can't carry this weight anymore".

‘But if we can teach people the skills to put their bucket down, pull the rocks out of the bucket and then pick it up and go again, you will never reach that threshold.'

Dr Coulson said the key was taking mental health seriously and developing strategies to deal with emotional turmoil. 

He encouraged people to watch ABC series Man Up, hosted by his friend and Triple M radio personality Gus Worland, which tackles the taboo subject of male suicide. 

'We want to encourage people to sit with other who are stressed and struggling and say, "let's problem solve this, let's understand the problem and let's find some solutions and get creative with it",' Dr Coulson added.

'And the great power in this is as we start to make these decisions and solve these problems, we feel a sense of control in our lives.'

Dr Coulson also called for more to be done to tackle the crisis facing boys and young men in light of grim statistics that show they make up 75 per cent of suicides.

Globally, young men are falling behind in almost every metric, including in education and the workplace, as they battle a crisis of identity in the modern world. 

'It's a provocative thing to say but I think the world is not friendly to men,' Dr Coulson said. 

'The world doesn't say, "hey, we've got your back". The world says, "hey, we're on your back".

Dr Coulson said that often the problem begins in the classroom where men are falling behind and this has a knock-on effect throughout their lives.

'We are facing a legitimate crisis when it comes to boys. They're hurting girls, they're hurting each other and they're hurting themselves,' Dr Coulson said.

'I believe that comes down to relationships and a sense that they're struggling to figure out where they belong and they're struggling to connect.

'I believe it also comes down to a sense of competence that is, they don't quite know what it is to be a man in 2023.'

He added: 'In our social media age where hyper masculinity is in front of them all the time, they don't feel like they can measure up.'

'We've got an identity crisis for so many of our boys, but they just, they don't know who they are and we need to help them to develop character, strength, purpose, competence and loving, connected relationships.'

Dr Coulson's sister, Karina - Logan's mother - was in Melbourne for a celebratory weekend with her husband - and Logan's stepfather - the Gold Coast Titans halfback Kieran Foran, when she heard the devastating news.

She shared a video on Tuesday of her and her late son arm-in-arm on a trail walk in June this year.

'I would give anything my boy,' Karina captioned the heartbreaking post. 

She later shared a picture of Logan carrying a surfboard on a beach, writing: 'My boy. My heart is not in my chest.'

Karina married Kieran Foran in 2018 after a year of dating, having divorced Logan's father, Mat, several years before. 

Mat was a former homeless drug addict on Australia's Most Wanted List before he met Karina and turned his life around, forging a multi-million dollar career as a real estate agent.

Logan's father, who now does motivational speaking and hosts the 31 Minute podcast, shared three sons with Karina before they split up. 

Mat shared his own powerful tribute to his son on Thursday where, through tears, he spoke of how Logan was 'really loved' by a 'thousand people'. 

'They say it takes a village to raise a kid – it took five villages to raise Logan. He was the best,' Mat said. 

'Things got a little strained in the end, he wanted to do life his own way – very hard to watch. But you know I think could I have done things differently? I know his mum thinks that as well. 

'You wake up in tears and you go to bed in tears.'

He remembered Logan as 'funny guy - he just had the best smile and he was the best, the funnest person...everyone's favourite brother'.

'People say he's happier now but I think we could have made him pretty happy here too,' he said. 

Logan's father had nourished his talent for surfing from a young age, which saw him on the cusp of signing a pro-contract before his tragic death. 

A profile on X, formerly Twitter, set-up in 2011 reveals Logan had a long-held ambition to pursue a professional surfing career.

'My name is Logan and I'm 8 I'm going to be a pro surfer,' the profile bio wrote. 

'My goal is to be sponsored by Hurley, Red Bull & Dylan. I practice everyday with my Dad.' 

On Wednesday, Logan's brother Jaxson shared a picture of him smiling in the surf.

‘Tell your family that you love them, never go to bed on bad terms and just love each other you never know when you’ll have your last conversation with someone,’ Jaxson wrote.

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