I want to divorce my husband because he BLAMED me for the stillbirth of our son - then got angry when I told him I was pregnant with triplet girls

A woman has been inundated with messages of support after she revealed her husband blamed her for the stillbirth of their son - then refused to be involved in the lives of their three daughters when she later conceived triplet girls. 

The 27-year-old woman - who has not been identified - took to Reddit to open up about the tragic experience of losing her son, before revealing her 29-year-old husband's shocking reaction when she got pregnant with three girls. 

She explained that after their son was stillborn, she and her spouse worked hard to repair their relationship and their broken hearts. 

So when she got pregnant with triplets, she was over the moon - however, she claims her husband launched into a rage when he learned he would be having three daughters.

She says her partner was left furious at the idea of having girls and blamed his wife for the stillbirth of their son, telling her that he didn't want to have a relationship with his daughters.

The unknown woman couldn't believe her husband's reaction and is now debating divorcing him. 

She took to the social media platform in a thread titled, 'Am I the A**hole,' to question if she was in the wrong for wanting to separate from her partner of five years. 

At the beginning of the post, she explained: 'I (27F) have been with my husband (29M) for five years, married for three of those years. 

'Our marriage was perfect and we were so happy. It felt like our entire life was perfect. Church on Sunday, loving husband, beautiful home, all of it. 

'A few months into our marriage I became pregnant and my husband and I were overjoyed and so was the rest of our family. 

'My husband was especially happy after finding out our baby was a boy as he'd always told me he wanted at least one son.'

The couple was ecstatic to welcome their son into the world, however, tragedy struck when their son was  stillborn. 

However, they were able to get through the pain together and the 27-year-old once again fell in love with her life. 

And things got even better when she became pregnant again. 

'About five months ago I found out I'm pregnant again, and then found out soon after that we're having triplets. My husband and I were over the moon and he was the most doting and loving husband. 

'Since we had always said we wanted two to three children we agreed we wouldn't try for anymore children after this.' 

The lovebirds family was also overjoyed they were expecting again and threw them both a baby shower and gender reveal party. 

'We trusted my brother with the genders of the triplets and he bought some confetti cannons with the colored streamers inside,' the soon-to-be mom said. 

And while the baby shower exceeded all of her dreams, the gender reveal didn't go as smoothly. 

After the couple's family revealed they were having three girls, the dad-to-be entered a fiery rage and chaos ensued. 

The 27-year-old - who said she 'didn't care' what gender her babies were and just wanted them to be 'healthy' - said that she knew her husband was 'excited' for 'potentially three sons.' 

She explained: 'When the time came, me, my husband, and my brother all shot a confetti cannon and all three shot out pink confetti. 

'I was so excited and so was my brother, but my husband screamed at the top of his lungs and hit the table in front of us, hitting it so hard that it actually broke. 

'He screamed at me that I was supposed to give him at least one son because I killed his first one.'

The mom-to-be erupted into tears as she had 'been so broken up' about their son's stillbirth and a 'part' of her always felt like it was her fault. Her fears were only confirmed when the 'love of [her] life' blamed her. 

She added: 'My brother immediately stepped in and tried to get my husband to calm down, but my husband shoved my brother, so my brother instead pulled me inside, where I cried in the living room while my husband's mother tried to calm him down.

'I could hear him screaming outside about how three daughters is too many, how he doesn't want four kids but he also wants a son.'

Ever since their gender reveal, he has yet to apologize to wife and has 'hardly' spoken to her.

'He's been sleeping in the guest room and when we do interact he's clearly upset and mad and tries to argue with me.

'I tried to talk to him about it and asked about how he'll be with our three daughters, but he spat at me and told me he will provide them shelter and food but he isn't interested in daughters and doesn't plan to have a close relationship with them. 

'That sealed the deal that I want to divorce him and I cried myself to sleep last night.' 

Despite having already decided she wanted to separate from her husband, she turned to both her mother and mother-in-law for reassurance. 

However, she only became more confused. 

She explained: 'Earlier today I confided in my mother and mother-in-law about all of this, but they told me I can't divorce my husband just because he wants a son. 

'I don't want my daughters to grow up in an unloving household where their parents constantly argue and their father doesn't love them. The moment my husband said I killed our son I felt as though I lost all love I had for him in an instant, and I don't want my daughters to be in that kind of household. 

'However, both my mom and mother-in-law say it's just natural for men to want sons and that at least he isn't saying he'll mistreat them. They treated this as absolute fact and acted as though I'm just a silly little girl who doesn't know anything, I felt incredibly small and stupid.' 

She noted that she didn't know whether she should divorce her husband or not because her mother and mother-in-law made her feel like she was 'overreacting.' 

However, her brother said her husband's behavior was 'not normal.' 

The 27-year-old also said that she wasn't sure how she would be able to support her three daughters because her husband has been the one working throughout their relationship. 

She added: 'I'm also not sure of what I'll do with myself if I divorce my husband. I don't work and I'm not sure how I'll be able to find a job that can support me and three babies all on my own, or how I'll make time for all of them when I have to work. I feel so lost and helpless.

'I'm torn on what to do because I worry divorce will be too brash of a decision and that maybe my mother and MIL are right.' 

At the end of the post, she questioned if she was an 'a**hole' for wanting to a divorce. 

People flooded the comments section and ran to the defense of the mom-to-be - with many of them pointing out that it's the father's sperm that determines the sex of the child. 

One person said: 'Not the a**hole. You’re not divorcing him because he wants a son, you’re divorcing him because he has said some truly unforgivable things. 

'I’m so sorry about your son - please know it wasn’t your fault. Your husband it’s truly vile to say what he did and that alone is grounds to end your marriage. Good luck OP.'

Someone else commented: 'Also, isn’t it the father’s genes that determine the gender? So not only is he a disgusting piece of human trash, he is also stupid because he is the one that didn’t provide a son, not OP. ' 

'This is exactly what I was going to say. OP is NTA and is not divorcing a man mourning the loss of a son. She’s divorcing a man who already hates his unborn daughters. OP, you can help support your babies by filing for child support. Her husband is obviously a man in pain, but she and the babies shouldn’t have to be the bearers of that pain,' added another user. 

Another user added: 'If he hates the idea of having daughters, then he hates women. If he hates women, he hates you. I don’t know why women put up with son preferences. Men expect a woman to birth their children, but GOD FORBID they look like her.

'If he thinks that sons are superior to daughters, then he thinks that he is superior to you. Put two and two together. He sees women as a whole as less valuable. That includes you.'

'This. It's not as simple as him wanting a son, it's him blaming you for the stillborn child and outright telling you he doesn't want to be a good father to those kids,' someone else said. 

Another person wrote: 'He said vile things and got violent because of something that was his "fault." It’s the sperm that determines whether the baby will be male or female. He happened to father triplets all using sperm with an X chromosome rather than a Y. He’s going to treat their daughters horribly and blame OP for everything that isn’t 100 per cent perfect. It’s best that she gets out now before things get even worse.' 

'Not the a**hole. I would sleep with one eye opening knowing the dude in the other room thinks weird thoughts like that, I’d also move far away now and change my name. He ain’t normal,' added another person. 

'Yes... And maybe slip him a biology text so he knows he made three daughters. You have nothing what so ever to do with the sex of them.

'And it's logical what mother-in-law's opinion is. Your husband wasn't raised in a vacuum, and you'll have three daughters. You can't raise them with the bar as low as your mother and mother-in-law think is normal. At least he doesn't hit you! He'll just insult you, spit at you and won't love you. Lucky you,' someone else said.